Before I Say "I DO"

 BIBLICAL PRINCIPLE " Prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field; and afterwards build  thine house." (Proverbs 24:27 kjv) ASK YOURSELF 1.  How can I prepare myself for marriage? 2. How can I be ready and responsible in my marriage? 3. Why should I save money before getting married? CONNECTING THE CONVERSATION Before my husband and I got married even though we were childhood sweethearts, we experienced a time of not seeing one another.  The fact is, he went his way and I reluctantly became a teenage bride to someone else.  I had left home at 17-years old thinking that was better than going back home.  Not the case.   I was legally married for 11 years and single again for 10 years before me and my childhood sweetheart would reunite and get married. We have been married 19-years 7-months as of this post. After being in many counseling sessions with our Pastor myself, once my husband and I announced we were getting married, he began counseling wi

Why Does It Seem So Hard?

BIBLICAL PRINCIPLE "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye re able; but will with the temptation also, make a way to escape , that ye may be able to bear it." (1 Corinthians 10:13) ASK YOURSELF How can I stand in Christ Jesus through difficult times?   CONNECTING THE CONVERSATION I often say " life happens" .  Its going to happen rather we like it or not.  This May 10th of 2021, my husband and I have been married for 19 1/2 years.  We have had some challenges that may have caused others to take the escape of divorce.  The devil tempted Jesus.  Don't think he won't tempt you. We have experienced miscarriage, the loss of a home, physical limitations, the changes of growing children, raising a grandchild, financial challenges, the loss of parents, disappointments, spiritual and emotional discouragement and one thing happening after another, causing us to someti

Can You Agree?

BIBLICAL PRINCIPLE "Can two walk together, except we be agreed?" (Amos 3:3) ASK YOURSELF We hear so much about eating healthier to live a longer life.  Should not the same thing be true for your marriage?  How can you feed into your marriage for it to be healthier for the rest of your lives? CONNECTING We became aware early in our marriage that having things in common and sharing with each other matters.  It is those common things that help us to engage in worship and fellowship building a stronger relationship and learning about each other in our sharing that challenges us to grow closer together.  The more we do together the more we converse together, laugh together and figure out things together.  During this pandemic time, I got creative in making homemade soups.  One day I asked my husband to help me cut-up the ingredients.  We had not engaged with each other like this in a while.  This adventure opened the door for us to rediscover what attracts us to one another

Why Did You Say "I Do"?

BIBLICAL PRINCIPLE Genesis 2:18 "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." ASK YOURSELF -How did  I meet your husband or wife for the first time? -What was my first impression about? -Why did I chose to say "I Do"? CONNECTING THE CONVERSATION My husband and I first met each other over the phone in a group conversation with some friends. We all attended the same junior high school but, my husband and I did not meet face-to-face until a later time. It was my husbands' voice that got my attention .  He had a very deep voice even, as a young man. I just had to meet him.  He reminded me of my grandfather, the man in my life that always made me feel safe.  When I asked my husband what first attracted me to him, he said "you did not have to wear make-up like the other girls to try and cover-up who you are".  He told me that his friends would tell him, "that girl must be special" becau